Ever have those times in your life that you know you need a change? Sometimes it’s just a new toothpaste, but more often than not, it’s on a larger scale. For me, it’s always around my birthday. I take inventory of my life and surroundings and try to figure out what is working and what just doesn’t. More often than not, it’s a good thing!
The reason I say ‘more often than not’ is because it is not a beat-yourself-up kind of inventory, which I have been known to need that kind of hard honest look. It is more of a list of things I feel need to change. For example, two months ago, when summer first started I was not in my “summer body” so I made some lifestyle changes like cooking more healthy meals and working out more consistently. That was a good change. I’ll share more about that in another post coming soon!
Other times in my life I have had to make changes that were more emotional. Can we just say: bad boyfriends in my 20’s and leave it at that? Good. You get the idea. Whether it’s boyfriends or career moves we all feel that urge at one time or another. It’s a good thing!
Life is all about growth and the only way to grow is to take chances and re-evaluate those choices and then take new chances. If we don’t then we get stagnant and growth stops. And that’s not a good thing!
Don’t be afraid of change
I am not a risk taker by nature. I think most people aren’t. Comfort is very, well, comfortable. But, there is an excitement that comes with change. That same excitement that my children get on the first day of school. All the questions:
- will I make friends?
- will I do well?
- What if I fail?
We all have those same questions even as we get older. Now, maybe for a career change the risks are higher, but the fundamental insecure feelings of failure are the same. The act of doing something different is liberating and exciting and scary all at the same time. Can we say butterflies in the stomach moment?
My Mom used to always say, “what is the worst thing that could happen?” Now, as a child I would come up with things like, the kids won’t sit with me at lunch or I won’t know the answer to a question in class. Things like that. But really those things never happened. They were just drama in my head on the anticipation of the first day of school. That little voice that stops us from taking chances is loud!!
So, as I sit here contemplating the changes I want to make and the risks involved, my 8-year-old self is thinking of all the silly reasons why something won’t work…. but really, what is the worst thing that could happen? I have to start over? I have to re-evaluate and change paths? At least I did something! And in reality, trying something and failing is one of the best ways we grow as adults. We spread our wings and fly a little higher the next time.
Be an example
I also find that trying new things and taking risks is a fabulous lesson for our children. What a better example to set than to always be learning and growing. Some things work out and some don’t, but our children are watching us and learning to always go for their dreams. I think that is the best life lesson they can get from us.
- What would you like to change about your life?
- What works and what doesn’t?
- Where do you want to be in a month, 6 months, a year?
- What changes would you have to make to achieve these goals?
Enter that dream space
This is the fun part! Where everything is possible. Open up the dream space and let your mind wander to the great what if’s of life. No one is watching so write down some big dreams. Whether it’s the great healthy body you desire or a promotion at work you would like to achieve, nothing is off limits! Now, what steps would you need to take to get you closer to your goals? Break this down to an everyday task that would get you closer to your goal.
“Change your thoughts and you change your world”
Norman Vincent Pearle
One of my changes I am going to make is to blog more so I am starting a Monday Musings post on, you guessed it, Mondays! Genius, I know! Where I will share some changes I plan on doing in my life and I hope you stay tuned and play along. So stay tuned. Today, I wanted to take that first step. The first little leap of sharpening my pencil and taking inventory of life. Sometimes that’s the hardest part. Entering that dream space…oh, and come on in the water’s fine. If you have been thinking of making a change, whether it’s toothpaste or maybe something a little bigger for yourself, join me and let’s make some changes together! I would love to hear about your dreams and hopes for the future!
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